Transmissions From the Transgender Battleground

 Thank you all for the support. I am able to see some things on Twitter, sometimes things I don't want to. (That's a topic for another post). I have not heard anything on my appeal yet. I heard that it's best to wait 10 days. I will keep following up. Meanwhile I'm trying to figure out what direction I want to go in going forward. This is not my first Twitter break, altough it is the first one that I had no say in. What I learned the first time, is that it’s peaceful away from the Bird App. I’ve been more productive and it’s honestly been a mental relief. But I also know that I miss keeping up to date on the events of this debate (I’ve got a lot to say about Wi Spa and the protest). I also know that’s important for transsexuals like myself to offer opposing views to the “trans cult”, and it looks like a lot of people appreciate and enjoy my views. So, where do I go now, especially if I can’t get on Twitter again? I’m leaning towards a podcast. I enjoy writing this blog....

 Presently I’ve been banned from Twitter. Ironically it’s not even for something I said. I noticed an unusual tweet in my notifications. It included a notorious racist statement from former president Trump. It was on a thread commenting about the Wi Spa situation and TW exposing male genitals to females. I assumed the comment was trying to make a comparison to Trump’s statement about Mexicans and mine about TW. I didn’t respond. A few hours later I get a notice that my account is suspended with an image of the tweet somehow coming from my account. I don’t know how, but this was somehow doctored. One difference I noticed is that on prior bans, the image of the offending tweet included the date and time. This image did not. As those on Twitter know, I try to stay polite to a fault sometimes. I have NEVER made a derogatory tweet about Mexicans or and racial/ethnic group. My account is focused 99% on trans issues and the gender debate. I have appealed the ban, but who knows how long th...

 "It's only one TW, it's not like they are dominating women's sports." This is one of the current talking points about TW in women's sports. More specifically right now, it's referring to New Zealand powerlifter Laurel Hubbard who is preparing to compete in the 2021 Olympics. I've criticized both the policies allowing TW to compete in women's sports as well as Hubbard herself. My criticisms of each though are different. I will not call Laurel Hubbard a cheater. She is competing under rules and guidelines that allow her to do so. I will however criticize her decision to compete. THAT is fully on her. Knowing a rule is unfair, and still using it for your personal gain does not make you a good person. Hubbard continuing to compete in women's sports is being selfish.  "But it's only one! She's the first even though TW have been allowed to compete since 2004!" What most leave out of this is that the rules in 2004 were much stricter...

Responding to a comment about TW in the world of The Handmaid's Tale, I questioned how many men would choose to transition if they knew that it meant certain death. Even in the real world, how many would transition if it truly meant giving up male privilege or entering a society that was more restrictive of women than most Western countries are. Would you still transition if it meant you couldn't have a job? A bank account? An education? If you had to be property of another male relative until you were married to a man and then became his property? I was told there would still be transwomen, they just wouldn't transition. I've frequently said that you aren't a TW if you don't transition. But for some reason this was my "Aha!" moment. Of course I've heard women say that "Being a woman isn't a feeling". I've agreed with it many times. But for the first time it finally hit me: They think being a transwoman is ALSO just a feeling. No ...

Part of this will be familiar to those that read my first post about my transition from TRA to "TERF", but I feel this needs to be said more. Part of why I stand with women and not the "trans community" is that I feel the "community" is trying to erase me too. The "trans community" want to erase women by making the word "woman" mean whatever they want it to mean, and not "adult human female". Do you have to be female to be a woman? "No! Stop reducing women to their biology!" Do you have to medically transition to be a woman? "No! Stop gatekeeping!" Do you have to present in a way that people expect of someone who is a woman? "No! Women can be women however they want! Butch women are women you bigot!" So what makes someone a woman? "They identify as a woman!" So what are they identifying as? "A woman! Why don't you understand you transphobe!" At this point I usually pass out...

 As I've stated before, the views I hold now are not the ones I held a few years ago. I've grown, apologized and hopefully moved on to a healthier viewpoint. However there are some things I'd like to specifically apologize for now. I want to apologize for statements I made in relation to a women's event I attended early in my transition. To be clear, this particular event was inclusive of transwomen, as long as the transwoman was "living full-time as a woman", Also, while the event was predominantly for lesbian and bisexual women, it was not exclusive to women of those sexualities. I did not attend with the intention of anything sexual happening, nor did it. Perhaps you could say that I wanted to attend for "validation", but mainly I just was looking for an event that I could attend to replace the gay men events I was no longer allowed to be a part of. Would I attend this event again in the future, probably not, but I might. I am supportive of events...

The warning is sounded often and loudly. "If you don't let your 'trans child' transition, they will possibly kill themselves.", "Would you rather have a live daughter or a dead son?", "Over 40% of 'trans' kids attempt suicide." Pretty scary stuff, right? All of this is used to support the idea that children should be allowed to socially and medically transition. After all, we don't want children to suffer, and we certainly don't want them dying. Only a complete monster would advocate for the death of children, and you're not a monster, are you? Let's look at some numbers. The Trevor Project did a 2020 National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health . This survey had 40,000 respondents age 13-24 who "identified" as either 1 of over 100 sexualities that was not "heterosexual" or 1 of over 100 gender identities that was not "cisgender", or both (Side note: WTF!) I could not find a breakdown of LGB...

I will start each review with a plot summary. I will try not to give spoilers for future chapters. Then I will comment on the aspects of the story and characters that I find relevant to the gender discussion. This means that in addition to my initial listen to the whole book, I will be listening to each chapter two more times. I hope you appreciate my sacrifice.  Summary of Chapter We are introduced to Reese, a 35 year old transsexual woman. Reese is on a ‘date’ with her “Cowboy”, a married man who is HIV+, a result of a previous affair with a different transwoman. While riding to pick up takeout, Reese thinks about her attraction to married men and the new sexual thrill she’s discovered by having sex with an HIV+ man. She compares the potential risk of contracting HIV to the possibility of pregnancy that women face. She has even taken to calling her PreP prescription ‘birth control’. Reese thinks about the fact that as a transwoman she can not have a baby, yet she desperately want...

This isn't about being happy about being transgender, I'll save that for another time, but about whether or not one is allowed to be transgender and be happy with your life. Full disclosure: I am happy with my life. I have a career I want. I have a great boyfriend. I had a wonderful, supportive husband. I own a home. I have friends. I have a few too many cats. I've developed interests in new types of music. I've even learned that under the right circumstances I can enjoy watching a football game. And importantly, I'm comfortable in my body now, give or take the weight that I tend to loose and gain back every few years. But if you listen to the "trans community", all of that is impossible. I'm transgender and to be transgender means that you are oppressed. People hate/fear/mock you wherever you go. We face discrimination in employment, housing, relationships. People want to stop us from existing, Now I'm not going to say that none of those things ev...

OK, don't shoot me, but I'm going to say something positive about "Detransition, Baby". At one point, a character refers to the current generation of transwomen as rampaging baby elephants. She goes into a longwinded explanation of groups of orphaned elephants that rain destruction, even on each other as a result of both their trauma and the fact that there are no adult elephants keeping them in line. This sounds pretty accurate from what I've seen of trans spaces, both in real life and especially online. Most of my online energy is spent on Twitter. But I've recently started looking at other spaces, specifically trans specific spaces. What I'm seeing is shocking. I'm not at all going to excuse bad behavior, but I think I'm starting to understand why it's flourishing. First, I keep forgetting that while a lot of platforms say they have age restrictions, children have and always will get around that. I still can't understand how Twitter can ...

I was introduced to the novel "Detransition, Baby" written by Torrey Peters, by a Twitter follower. This book is garnering critical and popular acclaim as an "Unforgettable portrait of three women". It has been longlisted for the Women's Prize for Fiction, which according to their website. "is an award celebrating and honouring fiction written by women" and "showcase the very best writing by women". The novel is unforgettable, but not in a good way. And I'm sorry, but if this is someone's idea of the "very best" writing done by women in 2020, I despair. This says nothing about whether or not Peters, a transwoman, should be considered for this award.  To be upfront, I downloaded the eBook version and listened to it as an audiobook. This would not be my preferred way to experience a book, but it was the best way I felt I could get through it. I don't consider the writing to be good. The chapters are overly long. The narrat...

 "If transwomen want to be women, why do so many appear to hate women?" I see this or similar sentiments often. While certainly not all transwomen "hate" women, the actions and especially the words of many can make it feel like we do, Go online and you will quickly find transwomen complaining about "cis lesbians" or "TERFs". Maybe they'll even tell you that transwomen are somehow better at being women then women are. It can feel jarring to think that people that claim to be women apparently have so little respect for the group they claim to be a part of. Where does this come from? In my opinion most of it stems from jealousy. Transwomen are jealous of women, to one degree or another.Yes, even me. The simple fact is that you are what we wish we were. We can go on and on about "trans pride" all we like, but the simple fact is that given the choice, we would have rather been born female. Of course this comes with stipulations a lot of ...

  Disclaimer: I used the term TERF in the title strictly to make a catchier headline. I no longer refer to women as TERFs except possibly in a sense of camaraderie. I have been called a TERF repeatedly, and know it to be a slur, as unfairly and inaccurately hurled at women as it is at me.   For the first few years of my transition, I held and repeated many to the same viewpoints of Trans Rights Activists. This included but was not limited to: Trans women are women, as a woman I’m entitled to use women’s spaces, trans women belong in women’s sports. I even believed that there were trans children and that they should be allowed to transition. Over time my views started to shift. I became more critical of these ideas and what I was being told by other trans people. My views shifted so much that I honestly forgot that I’d ever believed the original ones. Birth of a TRA They say that most people don’t know any transgender people. That holds true even if you are transgende...